My cat never comes on me: he is distant, he is not affectionate, he does not want me to take him on my knees… Do not be sad because you are not the only one or the only one in this case. Indeed, on many forums, we can see that these questions are often on the agenda. But there are explanations and methods that can be put in place to make a cat more affectionate. Check out all my tips and tricks below to make your cat more cuddly with you.
Why does my cat never come over me?
First of all, you should know that not all cats have the same personality. Some cats are very affectionate and others are less so. In fact, not all cats wander no… However, even cats that are not affectionate can become a little more cuddly.
But before putting in place a plan for your cat to come a little more towards you, you must try to understand why he is so distant:
- Your cat may have been abused at a younger age;
- Your cat has been through a abandon before you adopt her;
- He may have felt abandoned if you left him alone for too long (How long can a cat be alone?);
- It may have been badly weaned or weaned too quickly;
- Your cat grew up on his own when he was a kitten (you left him all day to go to work…);
- He didn't learn how to socialize and suddenly became a bit "wild";
- Your cat doesn't like to be disturbed when he wants to be alone or just wants to rest;
- You speak to him too abruptly, you are not pleasant enough with him;
- Your cat will feel "suffocated" if you surround her with too much affection.
How can I make my cat more cuddly?
If you didn't take care of him enough when he was a toddler, building a loving relationship with your cat will take time. But with patience and a lot of love, you will be able to establish a deep emotional relationship with your cat. Here's how to do it:
Make a cat more cuddly by devoting time to it
An emotional relationship is a two-way street. If you want your cat to come to you to be petted, then you have to make an effort for him too. However, it is impossible to show affection to your cat when you are always away. This is what happens when you go to work all day and leave your cat alone at home.
To compensate, you have to take the time in the evening to take care of your cat. Every evening, you will have to devote time to your cat to cuddle him and especially to play with him. Indeed, cats love to play. It is therefore a good way to form a solid bond with your cat (See How to play with your cat?).
Thus, by setting up this moment of sharing every evening, your cat will be impatiently waiting for you because he will take pleasure in finding you. And this bond of affection will grow stronger and stronger every day.
Make a cat more cuddly by talking to him
Even if you're busy doing other things and can't make time for your cat, remember to talk to him as soon as he is in your presence. Of course your cat will not understand everything you say to him, but he knows how to interpret the intonation of your voice. Suddenly, if you speak to him very nicely, saying sweet things to him, he will feel the affection in the intonation of your words. By making a habit of talking to your cat, you will create an interaction with him and therefore a bond more.
Make a cat more cuddly with love
In order for your cat to be more cuddly, he must want to come towards you. For that, he must feel loved. See how do you show your cat that you love her?
How do I get my cat to come over me?
Choose the right moment
- Respect your cat if he doesn't want to play, if he doesn't want to be petted ...
- Do not disturb him if he is resting or sleeping ...
- Never scold him (neither beatings nor punishments) because the cat does not understand why you are scolding or hitting him. He may, on the contrary, fear you, distrust you and behave aggressively towards you.
Put yourself at his height
So that your cat comes towards you, put yourself within reach. By sitting on the ground, by crouching down, by putting you at his height, your cat will be able to come towards you more easily. Not only will he not feel dominated, but he will feel free to come to you on his own. Thus, it will be he who will decide to come to you to play or to be cuddled.
Hand him sweets
By offering your cat some treats, he will understand that you want to make him happy. The objective will be to try to take him on your lap so that he grabs his treats and on you. Maybe a hug then will make her stay with you.
Knowing how to stroke your cat
You should always stroke a cat in the direction of the hair! It's silly to say but if you want your cat to enjoy your petting, you will need to learn how he likes to be petted. Sometimes, some cats like to be massaged, others prefer hugs on the back, others on the head ... However, it is never against the grain.